Jan 2026 | Winter
Monthly Newsletter
Happy New Year!
Welcoming the Fire Horse Year
Wow! 2026 is here!
As we step into the Year of the Fire Horse, we enter a cycle rich with movement, vitality, and truth-telling. The Horse, in many Eastern traditions, symbolizes our capacity to carry life force through the body—to move forward with stamina and instinct. When paired with the Fire element, this year invites us to pay close attention to how energy lives in us: where it flows freely, where it feels constricted, and where it risks tipping into overwhelm. From a trauma-informed perspective, this is a reminder that aliveness does not come from pushing harder, but from feeling safe enough in the body to mobilize energy without burning out.
January, however, is not a season of sprinting. In Ayurvedic teachings, winter is shaped by cold, heavy, and inward-pulling qualities. It is a time when the body naturally turns toward rest, repair, and conservation. Rather than forcing new behaviors through willpower alone, this season asks us to slow down and listen—to track sensation, notice our nervous system cues, and allow clarity to emerge organically. Planning now is an embodied act: sensing what feels supportive, realistic, and regulating before taking action.
For mental health, this approach matters deeply. Trauma lives not only in memory, but in the body’s rhythms, reflexes, and thresholds. When we align our intentions with the season, we create conditions for change that feel resourced rather than rushed. January becomes a space to tend the nervous system, clarify boundaries, and strengthen inner safety—so that when spring arrives, the Fire Horse’s momentum can be met with steadiness, choice, and embodied consent.
This year invites us to move not from urgency, but from attunement. To let the body lead, the mind organize, and the heart set the direction—so the energy we cultivate is sustainable, nourishing, and alive.
Here’s what’s happening this month!
Seattle Area Events
Wednesday, January 7th - Community BodyLove Temple @ Temple of Sacred Arts @ Temple of Sacred Arts in Lake City
7pm - 11:11pm | $77
An evening gathering centered on sacred, conscious touch and shared presence, offering a communal container for healing, nourishment, and pleasure. Through guided practices, participants explore devotion, self-worth, consent, and authentic communication while giving and receiving supportive, heart-centered touch. The event emphasizes safety, reverence, and connection, drawing on consent frameworks to cultivate intimacy and mutual care.
Monday, January 12th - Free Info Night on Somatic Sex Education & Sexological Bodywork @ Seward Park Area
6:30pm - 9:30pm | FREE | 18+
A free, public event introducing Somatic Sex Education and Sexological Bodywork, featuring a panel of local certified practitioners, a clothed live demonstration, Q&A, and snacks in a supportive, welcoming space. I highly recommend for folks wanting to deepen their healing from sexual trauma and seeking a space to explore receiving healing consensual touch from a professional.
Wednesday, January 14th - Sex Trivia @ Stoup Capitol Hill
7pm - 9pm | $10-$20
This monthly event celebrates pleasure, queerness, and the science of sex through a fun, inclusive sex trivia night. Participants form teams of 4–6 to answer questions on a wide range of sexuality topics, with prizes for winning teams. All identities and backgrounds are welcome. A portion of ticket sales supports API Chaya, a non-profit that supports survivors of gender-based violence and human trafficking by fostering safety, connection, and wellness, while empowering immigrant, South Asian, Asian, and Pacific Islander communities to end exploitation and support collective healing.
Wednesday, January 14th - Consent is Sexy: Mastering the Art of Mutual Connection @ Temple of Sacred Arts in Lake City
7pm - 11pm | $60
An experiential workshop focused on learning and practicing embodied consent as a playful, empowering, and connective skill. Participants explore body awareness, clear communication, boundaries, and desire through guided exercises and facilitated practice. In a trauma-aware, safety-centered environment, the workshop offers tools for asking for what you want, honoring yes/no/negotiation, and building trust and confidence in intimacy, relationships, and everyday interactions—without sexualized or goal-oriented touch.
Friday, January 30th - Courting Arousal: A Wheel of Consent Pleasure Party
5pm - 7pm | Wheel of Consent Training | $20 - 50 | *Required to participate if you have not attended a Wheel of Consent training prior to the party*
7pm - 11:30pm PST | PARTY | $75 - 100
An immersive, consent-centered pleasure party inspired by the Wheel of Consent, offering multiple ways to participate through interaction, witnessing, and exploration. Guided through a historic mansion with themed rooms, live demonstrations, interactive experiences, music, and quiet spaces, the evening emphasizes choice, desire, power, and touch. Open to varied expressions of dress and participation, the event prioritizes informed consent, with required preparation for newcomers and an introductory class before entry.
Virtual Events
Tuesday, January 6th - KINK 201: Advanced BDSM Negotiations - Relationships, Dynamics, and Contracts
6pm - 8pm | $23 - $44 | Zoom | Recording will be available
A Kink 201 workshop focused on negotiating and sustaining long-term D/s dynamics and kinky relationships. Participants explore defining needs and boundaries, negotiating ongoing play partnerships and D/s contracts, maintaining relationships over time, and strengthening communication. Designed for those with some BDSM experience, the session offers tools to build more satisfying, ethical, and enduring dynamics, welcoming all genders, orientations, and styles.
Thursday, January 15th - WTF is Relationship Anarchy?
6pm - 8pm PST | $23 - $44 | Zoom | Recording will be available
A 90-minute workshop exploring Relationship Anarchy, aimed at clarifying common myths and misunderstandings. The session covers the history and philosophy of Relationship Anarchy, its connections to political anarchism, key ideas from the RA Manifesto, and practical applications in real-life relationships. Drawing on personal and shared experiences, the workshop examines commitments, stability, and how RA fits within or alongside polyamory and non-monogamy, highlights potential benefits of this approach, and includes time for audience Q&A.
Saturday, January 17th - The Unconscious as an Expansive and Guiding Force During Collective Upheaval via C.G. Jung Society Seattle
1pm - 4pm | $30 - $40 | Recording will be available
How can we make sense of the psyche and the unconscious during periods of collective crisis and upheaval? In this workshop, you can engage with selections from Jung’s visionary writings, alongside accounts from others during World War II and later eras. Through personal reflection and small-group dialogue, examine how our own inner worlds may be offering guidance, support, and unexpected insight—and how this seemingly “irrational” realm can reveal meaningful responses to the challenges of our time.
Saturday, January 17th - The Shame Spectrum: A Humiliation Play Intensive
12pm - 4:30pm PST | $50 - 65 | Zoom | Recording will be available
An in-depth workshop on consensual humiliation and degradation play that focuses on distinguishing ethical, consensual dynamics from harmful abuse. Participants learn to deepen dirty talk, intensity, and psychological nuance while prioritizing trust, informed consent, emotional safety, and aftercare. The workshop covers negotiation, managing complex emotions and shame, understanding headspaces and triggers, and communicating desires with partners. Additional topics include specific kink themes, public play considerations, humor and playfulness, practical tools and gear, demonstrations, and interactive Q&A to support skillful, responsible, and fulfilling scenes.
Every other Wednesday, January 21st - April 1st - The War Between Eros & Thanatos via C.G. Jung Society Seattle
10am - 12pm PST | $10 | Recording will be available
Russell Lockhart, Ph.D. reflects on a world increasingly dominated by darkness and destruction and asks how we are to respond. Drawing on decades of Jungian practice, teachings from Jung and his students, and personal experiences through dreams, visions, and active imagination, the seminar presents eros—connection, love, and meaning—as the speaker’s answer. Through close readings of key texts and reflections on a lifetime of analysis, the talk explores how eros counters destructive forces and how it can be consciously lived in everyday life. Participants are invited to engage actively, bringing their own questions and experiences to this inquiry.
9 Weeks Starting Wednesday, January 21st to March 25th - The Divine Domme | Women’s Dark Feminine Embodiment Journey
6pm - 9pm | $2500 | Zoom | No Recordings
This is a is a 9-week shamanic embodiment program with Haazel designed for women ready to fully claim their power, presence, and erotic sovereignty. Through rituals, archetypal embodiment, and sacred eros practices, participants awaken their inner Domme—the part of themselves that commands, seduces, creates, and receives without apology. The program focuses on cultivating magnetic presence, erotic power, integrity, feminine leadership, and mastery over energy, guiding women to step into unapologetic authority, self-worship, and embodied sovereignty. This is a transformative container for those ready to release smallness, embrace pleasure as power, and embody their fullest, most commanding selves.
Saturday, January 31st - The Ultimate Guide for Teasing and Orgasm Control
11am - 1pm PST | $34 - 44 | Zoom | Recording will be available
A workshop focused on the art of teasing, edging, and orgasm control to deepen connection and intensify pleasure. Participants learn how to build anticipation through sensory play, timing, language, and power dynamics while tailoring techniques to different bodies, preferences, and neurodivergent needs. Emphasizing consent, boundaries, and aftercare, the workshop offers practical skills, demonstrations, and tools for using denial, pacing, and playful psychological elements to create more powerful, personalized erotic experiences.
Other Resources
15 minutes | Free Instant Access
The Daily Body Bliss Practice is a 15-minute guided ritual designed to help you reconnect with your body, awaken sensation, and cultivate self-love. It offers a chance to slow down, release stress, and feel more alive, confident, and open to intimacy with yourself and others.
6 Healing Sounds Qigong - Meditation in Motion for Inflammation Stress & Illness
30 minute video | YouTube
I got sick just before Christmas and this practice has helped me maintain good energy and rejuvenate my energy to guard myself from seasonal depression. Check it out if you’ve been wanting to learn more about energy and movement practices.
Free Massage Add On - Free 30-Minute Bossy Massage Add-On @ Breathwise Healing Arts in Ballard
$140 for 60-minute massage
Bossy Massage is a clothed, guided touch practice where the client leads, focusing on choice and clear communication to build agency, self-awareness, and trust in their body and voice. Book a Bossy Massage Add-On when you book any 60-Minute Custom Massage, Manual Lymphatic Drainage, or Pregnancy Massage. I highly recommend this practitioner for their knowledge of somatics and breath making them a good choice if you are working to reduce chronic tension and overwhelm as a result of traumatic events or chronic stress.
Online Course - The Early Years Course
On-Demand | $49
This is a self-paced sex education course for caregivers of children aged 0-7. Sex educator, Claire Appelmans walks you through how to talk with young children about bodies, boundaries, and sex education at their stage of development. This course has a 11 modules discussing topics like anatomy, self-touch, gender, who’s in a family, and social media.
Online Course - Tibetan 5 Element Tantra Training
On Demand | $25 Monthly | $239 Annually
The Tibetan 5 Element Tantra Training is a somatic-spiritual program that teaches Tibetan tantric practices to support healing, embodiment, and energetic integration. Through meditation, breathwork, elemental movement, and self-connection practices, participants cultivate self-trust, nervous system balance, and a deeper, more embodied relationship to themselves and others.
Updates
I’ll be out of town a couple of times this month to offer myself some self-care during the dark and cold winter.
I won’t be accepting any new clients until February at this time.
I’m looking forward to sharing more resources with you throughout the year! I’m going to take this month to plan strategies to offer new blog posts, videos, audio recordings, and some group workshops later this year. Stay tuned!
As always, please check out my blog, educational guides, guided meditations and resources page for additional ways to support your journey.
Thank you for being a part of the Oasis community.
Love,
Brenda
